Compassion is such a big word and and an important one too. Utterly important. I’ve been thinking about it a lot lately… what does it actually mean for our day to day life? How can we really be more compassionate, to ourselves and to others?
One thing I’ve noticed is that often, there is the idea that compassion is weak. Like we’re giving up, dissolving our boundaries and just bend to what the other person wants.
Giving up so that the other person “wins”
But really: compassion is not weak. It is the most powerful thing you we do.
Imagine how much strength and courage it takes to have a heart and mind as wide open as for example the Dalai Lama. Who embodies the ultimate compassion, Great compassion, for all living beings. To see all of their pain, their faults, confusion, their mistakes, their suffering and still have this joyful, loving, compassionate attitude for everyone.
How much courage and strength it takes to have compassion for everyone, no matter what.. at all times.
I’d say this is powerful, strong and fierce.
And yes, we are not the Dalai Lama. But we can take this to our own life.
Compassion for your younger self
How much courage does it take to have compassion for someone who’s hurt you, maybe caused you pain?
Or even… compassion for yourself.
Maybe for a younger version of yourself… when you think of her you get angry because she messed it up and you have to face the consequences of her choices today … but… then.. you remember compassion, and even though you feel hurt you understand she was doing her best. She has always been doing her best.
In my EFT sessions, we often find that the biggest block to change isn’t the pain itself, but the lack of compassion and understanding we have for the person we were when the pain happened. That creates a distance between us and our own becoming, distance from the part of us that just wants to be seen and held.
So to stand there, in your own vulnerability and pain and still.. have understanding for the other person, your younger self.
See their pain too, their suffering. See that you actually have something in common.
It can be the hardest thing to do.
To feel your pain. Your vulnerability.
And still see the other person, the one who hurt you and see their pain too
It doesn’t mean you accept their action or behavior, it’s just about that recognition: they too suffer, and want to be happy. This is what we have in common. It’s part of what makes us human.
May they be happy, just like me.
It’s not weak, it’s brave, courageous, powerful shift – not to fall into blame or anger, but cultivate compassion.
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